Burnout. It happens.
If you don’t prioritise downtime care, it will eventually lead to burnout.
Had i known this 6 years ago i may well have taken a different path. Ironically we now find ourselves in a moment of forced downtime. So if you’re a fast paced high achiever, will you heed it?
Spend time reading, listening to podcasts, going for walks and sometimes just sitting in silence.
Genevieve 2014 - “I haven’t got time for that!”.
Genevieve 2020 - “Totally. Makes sense. I might even be more productive”.
It may seem counterintuitive but if you respect your body's limits and stop pushing, you may be more productive in the long run....
It is not only type-A folk that fall prey to burnout, healers do too, by giving all of the energy to those that need help. Energy givers are known for putting other people’s needs above their own. And this means double trouble.
Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands.
Physical signs and symptoms of burnout
Feeling tired and drained most of the time.
Lowered immunity, frequent illnesses.
Frequent headaches or muscle pain.
Change in appetite or sleep habits.
In October 2019 I burned out. Luckily the Universe conspired with the US government and got me deported from America back to my parents house, in the middle of the UK countryside. I was forced to stay still for 3 months.
And just like a retreat, i had to focus on self-care as though my life depended upon it. For the first time in 6 years I powered down my laptop.
Carving out this time for yourself is basically life support. If you’ve ever read The Urban Monk, you learned some valuable lessons about prioritising downtime. Thanks to Coronavirus, it’s something that we have an abundance of right now...
Learn to prioritise happiness.
Ask a top performer what keeps them awake at night. Often they are miserable because they have prioritised money over friends and family, they tie prosperity to financial success. But darling we all know happiness is not a derivative of money, right?
List your to 5 goals and allocate your time amongst them. If you are working on something that does not support one of these goals then it cannot be executed. Most people are stressed because they are living in compressed time, they are overcommitted and have not set time boundaries.
Here are my five goals:
Exploring new things
Yeah I know, 4 should be 1. But you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
Only focus where needed. And rejuvenate throughout the day to keep motivated. A mid-afternoon orgasm works wonders.
Questions to help identify your goals:
What regular types of things make your body feel under threat? Stop them, now.
What are the top three things that suck the most energy from your life?
What are the top three things that give the most energy to your life?
And what percentage do you spend your time on each of these? If you’re a carer, you must balance giving energy with energising energy. And schedule it into your diary like you would a dentist appointment.
Do it now. And say no to anything that doesn’t support your goals or ask somebody else to do it. The best teams are the most diverse ones. I’ve built a team of people that love very different aspects of working at Skirt Club, hence we complement each other very well.
Wise words i go by:
“Busyness is bad for business” Poppy Delbridge Life Coach
In German there is a saying “First the work then the pleasure.” But why prioritise the stuff that drains you and not the stuff that fills you? Pleasure can be anything just needs to be visual and accessible. It means prioritising my well-being. Katrin Moehlmann Community Manager for Germany.
“Happy people are more successful than unhappy people” Dave Asprey.
Mind over matter.
Here is a simple rule, when stuff does not go your way you’re entitled to feel negative. Take five minutes to expunge how you feel; scream, shout, get it all out, bitch and moan. But once that five minutes is up, you must not waste anymore energy feeling bad about the situation. Making light and happiness from sometimes devastating news has a transformative effect. We all face adversity, but it’s up to us to decide what purpose it serves for the greater good.
Miracle Morning Routine
This is the advice of Hal Elrod who developed The Miracle Morning. He uses meditation and visualisation is to hack his subconscious and it can be life changing for personal development.
Every morning do something meaningful. What makes you feel calm?
Write in your diary (aka journalling)
Start your day off right. Turn your phone off or put it into Airplane Mode before you go to bed and don’t turn it on until after you’re done with your practice. I like to look at water for 10 mins as soon as i wake up, that’s 10 mins before my whatsapp blows up. I then feel I can handle what the day throws at me, much more rationally.
Most of all, love yourself,